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Ten Things I Took Home From #Eroticon

It's been three days, and the con drop has hit me.

I've had so much on my mind and so much to do that I haven't had time to write til just now, so I'll try to make it worth the wait.

Firstly, I got to spend my birthday with two of my favourite people in the world, and another special day with them the day after, in Bath Spa together. Now that it's Wednesday and I am on my own, warming my cold hands as I head back to London from Dover Priory, it's finally hit me:

I was at Eroticon.

I spoke at Eroticon.

I had the time of my life at Eroticon.

My mind is still somewhat blurry and my thoughts a tad incoherent, so I will jump happily on the bandwagon and talk about the ten things that I took home from one of the most incredible weekends of my life.

  1. A feeling of inclusion. Not once did I feel that the attendees of the convention were crawling into cliques. I have never been here before, and I knew only a few people by name, and yet every time I sat down I had someone to talk to, and made so many friends that way. This is honestly the first convention I've attended where this has been the case.
  2. More business cards than I arrived with. I truly feel incredibly blessed to have met the people I got to meet at Eroticon. I met bloggers and writers, creators and photographers; people who I would never have dreamed of having the confidence to approach online, because they are really that spectacular.
  3. A stunning one-of-a-kind ceramic dildo by @CeramicPleasure. Seriously, if you haven't seen his work, you absolutely must.
  4. Hand-made goodness from the KinkCraft workshops. And now the upcoming thought of how to get them through customs as I fly home on Saturday.
  5. A restoration in my faith in humanity. Every single person who was there has inspired me. People have the most incredible ideas for their business, for niches they are writing within, for spreading the word about sex positivity... It was magical.
  6. Swag, swag, swag. Photos to come, once I land back home, but I have so many goodies from Hot Octopus and Fuck.com and others that I would love to share and scream about for days. Not only did I get to COME but I got PRESENTS FOR IT??
  7. New knowledge. Every single talk was brilliant. I only wish I could have been in two places at once so I could have seen them all and not had to choose between them!
  8. Friends. I guess this was partially covered by previous points, but in truth I left feeling like I had made a connection that was more than a passing "hi how are ya", and that's incredibly rare.
  9. Inspiration. The readings, the conversations, the talks, the workshops... everything came with a spark of an idea that I am fairly certain I will use in upcoming stories.
  10. Confidence. I genuinely felt like I had made a difference, even a tiny one. I was encouraged to stand up and give my talk, to stand up and read my story. The feedback was lovely, the suggestions for more have definitely been taken into account. I feel... I feel good. I feel like I didn't disappoint myself for my first ever writing convention, and I hope I didn't disappoint anyone either :)

I did attempt to record my session, but unfortunately my camera hadn't more space than for the first 20 minutes of the talk (should have checked the settings on quality, oops). I will post those up here, and on my Facebook page once I have the chance. And I will post a transcript of my speech on here as well, for anyone who would like to download it and give a read through.

Thank you to everyone who was there, to everyone new I've met, to my friends who didn't make it but were my cheerleaders the entire way... thank you :)

Velvl Ryder